The art of shutting up

There are many reasons I’ve learnt to keep my mouth shut while the mind is still running a non stop commentary. Some learn this skill way too young, some wise are born with it, I was unfortunate enough to have been born with a mouth I couldn’t control (yes, I’m an Aquarian) and to not have cared about its consequences. So the image I still carry is of the one who can tell anyone off anytime and people are scared of me. Good.

But honesty isn’t working. It never does. So i thought of giving ‘minding my own business ‘ a shot. It works wonders and I’d recommend it to everyone. Here’s why.

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Turning 30

Turning 30 is such a social pressure. You must have a ‘must do by 30 list’. And you must discuss it with others. You must have a big party. And you must tell everyone. You must have big plans. And you must share it on social media. You must…. a lot of things. And everyone must know. 👻

Turning 30 is just a social pressure.

Nothing else changes. Nothing has changed for me. My life still sucks. I still feel inadequate. I still don’t know where my career is taking me. I still don’t have a stable relationship. I am still uncertain about a lot of things. So is the case with most of the ‘turning 30 soon’ or ‘just turned 30’ mob. If you are in this age range and you have something figured out… if you are where you thought you would be.. and things have planned out as per your plans even if more or less – please tell the rest of us what you did and how. And do DM me with your life coaching offer! 🙏

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10,000 steps a day

10,000 steps a day is a big deal – given that we are always in a rush, trying to make up those 2 minutes we lost at the traffic lights by taking the lift, driving to the nearby shop when it takes 10 minutes extra to walk it up. We park closest to the entrance, we take short cuts, we cut corners. 💪🏽

I never kept track of how many steps I take because I didn’t want to embarrass myself. hey! When everyone is saying for a healthy you, 10,000 steps is a minimum that you must do, and you know you are a lazy bum (who wants to be healthy btw) – you take the most obvious route! Avoidance. 🤘🏽

But that moment of weakness when you put that as a goal in your performance review (take part in the next 10,000 steps challenge? What crap was I thinking!) and so much hype is about a minimum 10,000 steps everyday – you can’t avoid but sign up for it. All pepped and prepped, I had all the gadgets to count every single step all ready and set by Sunday evening. 👊🏽

I put the pedometer on first thing I woke up. Regular regular and 1pm  I had just creeped over 2000 steps. Didn’t have much grand plans other than dragging my feet to the lunch room, watching YouTube videos and mindlessly grazing from my big lunch dabba. 🥙🍜🍛

I didn’t want to fail the very first day so did a slight change of plan – had lunch at my desk and went out for a stroll. 20 minutes and I had crossed 5000 steps. Wow!! Not bad right. 🥂

COB steps? Just a few over 6000. Yes, that’s how body lazy we are work. And oh yes, I was tired like I ran a marathon. Not that I ever did, but people usually look tired after running a marathon. You get the point right? 🏋🏽‍♀️

Picked some groceries on my way back home and I was done for the day. Flushed down dinner in front of the tv and the pedometer read…. 9089 🤺

I thought it was upside down, but no. It must be the grocery store. I would have done over 3000 steps there. The same as the 20 minute walk! Interesting…🛒

So you want to get fit – start going to the mall? 💸💰

There’s one thing though – the walk make me feel fresh, relaxed, accomplished, and all the good things . The same 20 minutes walking up and down the aisles drained me and made me feel like crap ( because the marketing gimmicks sicken me to ewww… well that’s another story). 💆🏽

And now that I’m up to 10,200+ , I can put my feet up and write this blog post. 📝

10,000 steps a day is a big deal but it’s not that hard. Lazy bum me can do it, you can do it too! 🤷🏽‍♀️

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The Job Search

Job search is a full-time job in itself..

When you are searching for a new job – for whatever reasons, it is the same story all over again. There are two sides to it – one,  when you do not have a job and you are searching for one, and two, when you already have one and you are searching for another one (for whatever reason and there are innumerable).  Continue reading

Something to write

I have been planning to write for a while now. When at work some 793 things cross my mind that i would like to write about. And the ideas are just flowing. I feel so super talented and so proud about being a woman to have the ability to think 5 things at the same time.

So after 2 hectic and frustrating days of work, I finally committed the crime of leaving work on time! Did all the leisurely things that i wanted to do – like having the time to visit a friend, watching TV, talking to my husband, checking my personal email (wow right), eating dinner on time, doing the dishes, doing the dishes, cleaning the kitchen – boy I ‘m on fire!! I even had the time (and energy) to do laundry!

I am so super charged to write, I take the list out to write – winters,bosses, medicines, sickies, shoes, Pinterest. Hmmm….. Continue reading